DEMENTIA – BAD BEHAVIOR AND HOLIDAYS

Children act out in the days leading up to holidays and parents shake their heads and say ” he has had too much sugar.” That may very well be true, yet children are certainly impacted by the hustle and bustle of holidays. And just as children are overwhelmed by the activities and anticipation, even more so is the elder with dementia.

However when the elder with dementia becomes angry and uncooperative, no one says “he has just had too much sugar.” And very often the solution proposed is some form of isolation, where what the elder may need is just the opposite. The elder with dementia may push family away with angry behaviors such as yelling, screaming, even pushing and at times throwing things.

There are also behaviors that are not as physical but equally as troubling such as, pacing, complaining, repeating themselves and general restlessness. What is important to remember is that the elder with dementia is not acting this way on purpose. The elder with dementia is always trying to understand his environment. Where he is, who is there, what is going on and most of all what might be expected of him.

While holidays are great is so many ways for the person with dementia, the music, colors, food, smells and decorations reinforce what is happening. The increase in  people, excitement, noise can push an already stressed elder over the edge. This is a good time for old fashion remedies. Activities that are calm, quiet and one on one.

  • a hand massage helps with anxiety, worry, sadness, and fearfulness
  • the old fashion back rub works wonderfully for those  in chronic pain or exhibiting irritability and anger
  • a foot massage provides calming for those with hyperactive behaviors, restlessness and pacing
  • massaging the forehead, temples and scalp help with tension and headaches

Added to the calming effect of the physical-therapeutic touch, some light smelling aroma, and you might be giving the best gift.

Virginia Garberding RN

Certified in Gerontology and Restorative Nursing